First, let's give credit where credit is due. My friend San at Informed Sharing wrote a post called “I Like Girls” and it inspired me to give my thoughts as well. Incidentally, she also inspired me to do this “Pieces of Me” series, modeled after her own.
Most people who know me would call me straight because to their knowledge (and accurately), I have only been in relationships with men. Why then, do I identify more closely with the pansexual title (if I must have a label)? The answer is both simple and complex.
As another friend said in a related post, we're all a little more flexible than we care to admit. Though I have been with only men, I am attracted to souls, not genders. When I see a person, I see no gender , race , or other label . I see and feel what is on the inside of that person, that soul. That is the simple definition of pansexuality – as far as what it means to me.
But you see, there are so many variations of what each of these labels means to each individual person. That, and the fact that people are just people, is why labels suck. They really do. Can't we just treat each other like the precious individual human souls that we all are? Can't consenting adults simply love each other without everyone else butting in? But alas, people need definitions, so if there must be labels, now you have mine. I'm a pansexual. I love the human race. Pure and simple.
Think I would leave someone I'm into and go run off and fall in love with someone else, due to varying genders? Wrong. Think again. Did you not read the above clearly? I don't see genders. I see souls. Therefore, there's no reason to leave one for another based on genders. While I support various types of relationship roles, I'm not the type to leave for a reason like that. And there you have yet another problem with labels: judging . I know exactly who I love and who I am – and when I am in love, I am not afraid to say so.
I'll speak my mind clearly, no matter what. What about you?
*I originally published this on a since-closed venue.