I’ve had that thought running through my head all morning. Perhaps it’s because I know two wonderful women that I am so blessed to call my closest friends, one of whom is my life partner. But I think it goes much more deeply than that. Recently, the idea of beauty has been so hotly debated in the media, especially when it comes to things like Photo Shopping and body shaming. Again, though, the deeper issue is that natural beauty is not being appreciated in the ways that it once was. We live in a society where products are the basis of “beauty” and “healthy” living when they are in fact promoting just the opposite – vanity without substance.
True beauty comes from within a person. But it’s not as simple as just being friendly and doing good deeds. It’s those three things – humility, grace, and tireless diligence – that are my favorite qualities in two of my favorite people. Confidence should be borne of these three qualities, which I call the True Beauty Trio.
By humility, I mean being modest and respectful to others without trying to impose one’s own beliefs on others. This doesn’t mean having to always be self-effacing or submissive. This does, of course, mean that one should never shy away from admitting mistakes and taking responsibility for the consequences of one’s actions. It also means doing things for the right reasons and never just for the sake of accomplishment.
There are a couple of definitions by which I could mean grace, but I’m not sure either of them quite fits. The first would be “simple elegance or refinement of movement.” The other would be “(in Christian belief) the free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings.” Neither of those definitions really explains what I mean. However, the simple elegance or refinement of one’s actions and not simply their physical movements could be considered a sort of undefined grace. The latter definition is more of a religious context that would deserve its own analysis, entirely, and does not apply to my thesis here.
The final piece of that True Beauty Trio is tireless diligence. That one is extremely straightforward: never stop working, but do it carefully and persistently. This industriousness, to me, is an extremely sexy quality in a person. When you know someone is always going to be working in the best interests of those he or she loves, that is extremely comforting and reassuring to know that you are in their life. The greatest people and most beautiful people in this world are those that never stop working, but also choose their battles and keep at it no matter what the situation or at whatever cost, without losing focus of the end goals, which is to help as many people as possible while also finding a way to earn a living.
So when one’s confidence is informed by these qualities of modest and respectful humility, grace in action, and tireless diligence, you get the True Beauty Trio. There are no physical attributes in this definition of true beauty, because these internal qualities in a person are what make that person beautiful, not their external features. Once we begin to realize that this sort of confidence makes the most attractive sort of person, and we learn to love and respect these people as true leaders-by-example and not simply there to push around and try to take advantage of, then we’ll all be a lot better off and a lot happier about ourselves. Deep down inside, if we try and reshape our lives by the True Beauty Trio, we will be all far more confident. But this will be in the best possible way, and not the way that the media wants to portray so-called “beauty” in its plastic “glory.” We’ll be the beautiful people, the ones who will make the change and set things going in the right direction once again.