by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

Finding safe toys for babies and toddlers has gotten harder, with so many recalls happening. However, there are still many toys that are safe for children as birthday and Christmas gifts or for everyday use. Here are 10 toys for babies and toddlers that have been tested for safety. The toys listed below come from companies who have stated that all of their toys meet or exceed the requirements for toy safety, so with that statement in mind, feel free to browse the other toys on these websites as well.

Little Champs Activity Football

The Little Champs Activity Football from Little Tikes is appropriate for babies and toddlers 6 months to 36 months. It is an electronic football-shaped toy with lights and sounds to stimulate sensory skills. This safe and educational toy will be loads of fun for many babies and toddlers.

Step2 Real Projects Workshop

Real Projects Workshop from Step2 is most appropriate for toddlers. Made from soft foam, the sturdy pieces meant to resemble wood provide fun practice of fine motor skills. A child can create many different structures with the tools and pieces in this child-sized workshop. It comes with a working table, interlocking pieces, as well as nuts and bolts that can be easily fastened by children.

Infantino Stick and Spin High Chair Pal

Designed for babies 6 months and up, the Infantino Stick and Spin High Chair Pal is versatile as well as educational. This safe and cost-effective baby toy can be attached to most strollers or high chairs, using the suction cup attached to the toy.

Tonka Wheel Driver Scoot 'N Scoop 3-in-1 Ride-On

This is a ride-on version of the popular and sturdy Tonka trucks. Suitable for children 9 months to 3 years of age, this triple-duty truck is a wonderful addition to a little one's collection. This toy helps with transitioning from crawling to walking, as it can be used a walker. It can be used as a digging tool as well, before or after the child has learned to walk. Once at the walking stage, the child can then ride on the truck. It is definitely a bargain, considering it is not only safe, but has multiple fun and stimulating purposes.

Tinkertoy

Tinkertoy is a classic building set that is safe for toddlers over the age of 3 years. Tinkertoy uses fine motor skills and also brings out creativity and imagination. Tinkertoy can be purchased in various building sets, both small and large.

Lincoln Logs

Like Tinkertoy, Lincoln Logs is another classic set of building toys. With Lincoln Logs, children can create miniature log cabins and other log structures. Your child can enjoy these wonderful safe toys that help develop fine motor skills and creativity. Lincoln Logs can also be found at many toy retailers. Since there are some small parts, this toy is for toddlers aged 3 years and up.

Playskool Busy Basics Busy Bouncin' Zoo

Designed for infants and toddlers 1 year old and up, the Playskool Busy Basics Busy Bouncin' Zoo is great for motor skills. The children use the plastic hammer to pound different buttons of the toy to create animal sounds and cause animals to pop up. You can affordably keep your toddler entertained and practicing motor skills.

Leap Frog Learn and Groove Color Play Drum
This safe educational toy is designed for infants and toddlers 6 months and up. They can learn colors, opposites, and counting in both English and Spanish, as well as get in some musical and physical play with this electronic interactive toy drum.

Hooked On Phonics Discover Reading Toddler Edition

This is what you could call a safe toy with a purpose. Hooked On Phonics is well-known for its innovative and educational products and this one is no different. While not exactly a toy in the traditional sense, children will have loads of fun learning essential reading skills. This program is designed for toddlers 18 - 36 months old.

Melissa and Doug Shape Sorting Cube

This durable, cute, and safe toy is great for holding a toddler's attention, while teaching them shapes, colors, and hand-eye coordination. The child can see all the colors and shapes and match them to the cube. The colorful shapes are also great for clanging around, which toddlers like to do. The recommended safety age for this colorful shape cube is 2-4 years.

*As with any toy, these toys do not replace the need for parental supervision. Accidents can happen, even with the best safety ratings. Always use caution and always supervise your baby or toddler.

​By Peter Minkoff, contributing writer

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

How many ounces of formula does a newborn drink?

Infant Formula Dos and Don'ts for New Parents
When it comes to formula feeding, there are some things that are a must. There also are things that will be a definite no-no. Here is my list of infant formula do's and don'ts for new parents.

Newborn Feeding Guide for New Moms
If you're a new mom, you likely have many questions about feeding your new baby. Being a mom to multiple kids, as well as a former nanny, I offer tips and advice related both to formula feeding and breastfeeding based on my experiences and research.

Soy Baby Formula Benefits
Choosing the right formula can be a challenge. There are many great options for parents to consider. This article discusses some of the benefits of formula feeding a baby with a soy-based formula.

How to Tell If Your Baby Has a Soy Allergy
Cow's milk may be the most popular formula allergy to be discussed, but it isn't the only one. Did you know that a baby can be allergic to soy milk based formula as well? This article explains common soy allergy warning signs when formula feeding a baby.

How to Reduce Infant Spit Up
Infants spit up. That's a fact that cannot be completely avoided. However, there are ways to reduce infant spit up, whether formula feeding a baby or breast feeding. This article gives tips and advice on reducing the occurrence of infant spit up.

How Can I Cure My Formula-Fed Baby's Vomiting?
Spitting up is normal in babies. But vomiting is a warning sign. How can you tell which one your baby is experiencing? How can you cure vomiting in a formula feeding baby? This article can help parents faced with this issue.

5 Secrets To Successfully Bottle-Feeding Your Infant
Feeding your baby can often be a challenge, no matter the method. Here are 5 secrets to successfully bottle-feeding your infant.

What NOT To Do When Bottle-Feeding An Infant
So you’ve read up on successfully bottle-feeding your baby. Now, here’s what NOT to do.

Crying Baby with Colic? Soothing Sounds Plus Bonus Tips to Comfort a Colicky Baby
Babies who are breastfeeding, as well as those who are formula feeding can develop colic. Colicky babies often are uncomfortable and cranky. Many times soothing sounds will help. Here are some of the best soothing sounds for babies with colic.

How to Help a Newborn Poop
Sometimes your newborn may have difficulties making a bowel movement. Learn how to help a newborn poop safely.

*This is not meant to be a complete guide on formula feeding a baby. It also should not substitute the advice of a licensed medical professional. Your child's pediatrician is always the best source for health matters.

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

How Often Should I Feed My Newborn Baby?

A newborn baby should feed every 2 - 3 hours, but might go up to 4 hours without feeding on occasion. If your newborn sleeps past 4 hours or doesn’t demand to be fed at that point, you will need to feed him or her anyway. Newborns should never go longer than 4 hours without eating. If your baby asks to be fed more often, that’s fine. Some babies feed on demand. A newborn won’t feed if they’re not hungry. Therefore, you can’t overfeed a newborn.

How Long Can Formula Sit Out?

Follow the instructions on your exact infant formula package, as they can vary. Most formula can remain unrefrigerated for up to two hours if the baby hasn’t drank from the bottle. If the baby has drank from the bottle, instead it will last only an hour, due to bacteria concerns.

Formula Feeding Safety Tips

• Make sure to burp your baby after feeding each half to full ounce
• Use bottles and nipples designed to help prevent gas bubbles
• Never feed baby formula that has been left out for too long
• Refrigerate unfed formula only (once fed, it is no longer good to refrigerate)
• Never heat formula in the microwave
• Never prop a newborn’s bottle for feeding
• Use only the scoop that came with the formula to measure
• The directions on your formula package should be trusted before the advice here
• Disinfect all bottles properly

How to Get Free Baby Formula

If you’re a low-income family, many food banks will provide infant formula for free, as will other charitable organizations. You can also sign up for discounts and free samples on infant formula websites, such as Enfamil.com. Women, Infants, and Children (WIC) also provides free formula to those who qualify.

*This is not meant to be a complete guide on formula feeding a baby. It also should not substitute the advice of a licensed medical professional. Your child's pediatrician is always the best source for health matters.

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

your baby needs, but don't buy the cheapest just to save money. Always do research and listen to the pediatrician. It's good to save money in most cases, but not at the expense of your infant's health and nutrition.

DO Stock Up When Practical
Sometimes stores will have sales on baby formula. When baby has no issues with formula, it can be practical to stock up. It's wise to be sure you have been using the same formula to feed your baby for a while before stocking up.

DON’T Switch Brands Too Often
Switching formula can be tough on a baby's stomach. Try not to switch from the type of formula you are using unless recommended by the pediatrician.

DO Prepare Formula in Advance Where Practical
Some new moms may find it easier to prepare bottles in advance when using formula to feed a baby. However, if there is not a practical and safe way to store the bottles, it may not be a good idea.

DON’T Feed Baby Formula That Has Been Out Longer Than Recommended
New moms can check the label of the infant formula to see how long it can be unrefrigerated before going bad, as well as how long it can be refrigerated before it spoils.

DO Follow Preparation Instructions Exactly
Baby formula is developed in a way that provides a particular amount of nutrition to the infant. If it is prepared wrong, the nutritional value is altered.

DON'T Use More or Less Powder or Mixture Than Suggested
Using formula to feed a baby can be healthy if done right. Using too much mixture can cause gas, constipation, and other complications. Using less than suggested can cause poor nutrition and take away essential nutrients.

DO Heat Baby Formula Before Feeding
Babies should drink their bottles heated at an appropriate temperature. Room temperature is ideal. Babies should not drink cold bottles or those that are too hot. Both can be dangerous.

DON’T Use a Microwave For Heating Formula
Do not use a microwave to heat formula in a baby bottle or other container. Because microwaves heat unevenly, this could result in scalding.

-- Note that the author is not a licensed medical professional. The above is provided for informational purposes. Always consult a licensed medical professional for any advice pertaining to health matters.

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

child's pediatrician. The pediatrician can make recommendations for what may be the best choices, as well as base recommendations on a child's individual needs. If your baby has any health conditions or allergies, consulting the pediatrician about the formula is vital in making the best choice.

Know the Most Common Formula Types

Newborn babies will generally start out with a cow's milk newborn formula, unless there are known allergies or health conditions that warrant against it. Cow's milk newborn formula will be fortified with vitamins and nutrients that baby needs to grow.

Other types include:

• Variants of cow’s milk
• Soy
• Lactose-Free
• Hypoallergenic (currently protein hydrolysate or amino acid)
• Goat's Milk (not recommended for newborns)

Specialized formula that addresses specific medical needs also exists. Deciding which newborn formula is right for your baby involves knowledge on each of these, as well as your baby.

Know Your Baby's Nutritional Needs

If your pediatrician has recommended a newborn formula that contains Omega-3 proteins, such as DHA and ARA, be sure to factor that in when deciding which newborn formula is right for your baby. One example is that of premature babies. They may require a specific type of newborn formula for optimal growth and health.

Know Your Newborn's Allergy and Medical History

If food allergies are present, deciding which newborn formula is right for your baby will include considering which options are the safest. Also keep in mind any medical issues, such as prematurity, gastrointestinal conditions, and more. In such circumstances, the pediatrician should always be consulted for the safest choice.

Factor the Cost

After taking into consideration the factors above, as well as any other personal or pediatrician-recommended concerns, think about the cost. The goal should be not to find the cheapest formula, but to find what you can afford within the formula types suited to your baby's needs. Buying in bulk during sales and shopping around can help with this. Buying in bulk works best once the baby has been doing well with the formula choice for a good amount of time.

*WARNING: Although cow’s milk, goat’s milk, and other common ingredients are used to create infant formula, these alone are not enough to provide adequate nutrition. Infant formula must contain specific amounts of very specific ingredients in order to be used for exclusive feeding. For your baby’s health and well-being, ALWAYS consult your pediatrician if you’re interested in a homemade or alternative formula for your baby.

** Note that the author is not a licensed medical professional. The above is provided for informational purposes. Always consult a licensed medical professional for any advice pertaining to health matters.

by Barney Whistance, Contributing Writer

More mothers than ever are in the workforce. Ladies now make up half of all workers in the United States, with almost 4 in 10 homes having a mother that is likewise a working mother. Being a full-time working mom can prompt feelings of guilt and stress as a result of being stuck in the middle of work and family. For men it’s not all that hectic because they don’t have to manage household chores or juggle with their children’s homework along with their workload. However, moms go crazy and tend to lose their sanity. Well, if you are a working mother and can’t find the time to have a glass of water then you need to read this article.

Share the burden

It’s high time you start sharing the burden with your partner. If you can contribute to the household’s income then morally it’s his duty to participate in the responsibilities of children as well. This would make life so much easier at moments when you have to go to a parent teacher meeting but have a work deadline to meet, as well. This is where your partner can step in by going to the parent teacher conference or cooking a meal for the family if you got stuck with some work in the office or by picking and dropping the kid to school. These little responsibilities, when divided, make life so much more convenient.

Stop feeling guilty

Instead of beating yourself up on how you're not with your child, consider how your part in the firm is profiting the family. Maybe you can afford the cost of specific educational opportunities for your kids or you can save up for their college fees.

Don’t let other mothers bring you down

At times, other mothers can be really supportive of your decision; they boost your confidence and push you to achieve better goals. However, at times they could be very jealous that you’re doing so much better than them and they may feel the need to criticize you in order to satisfy their ego. Remember, only those who point fingers at you are the ones who are jealous of your success. So don’t think you’re a bad parent just because they say so.

Don’t be a pushover at work

Don’t let your office push you around. Don’t let them dictate terms to you that are unfair on you. Set your limits, tell them that you will leave the office at a certain time, every day, regardless of whatever happens. If you’re unable to complete an assignment, tell them that you will complete it from home.

Be organized

An important thing to take notice of as to avoid running around like a maniac is being organized. Decide what you’re going to cook for breakfast tomorrow and what lunch are you going to pack for your children. Be sure to iron out all the clothes a night before. This means your children’s clothes, your husband’s shirts and pants and your blouses or dresses.  Hire a day time nanny who can take care of your kids while you’re at work so she can take care of your children. That way you won’t have to run back and forth from your office worrying about their lunch time and putting them to sleep in the afternoon or taking them to the park.

Do each task at the right time

Moms get overburdened with office work and they can’t juggle between both, their family and work life together at times. They bring their work home and that way children may get neglected. Don’t waste time at work by Facebooking or using your phone, set a target and aim to complete it by the end of the day. If you do bring work home only do it when the kids are asleep or in school. Don’t work around them. Try to avoid multi-tasking.

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

If you are pregnant or have a newborn baby, you may be wondering about the health benefits of soy baby formula, compared to breast milk, cow's milk-based formula, or another formula type. Are there health benefits to soy formula over other formulas, and when should a baby drink soy formula?

Soy Formula May Decrease Rotavirus Infections

According to ScienceDaily, research has shown that soy isoflavones found in soy baby formula may help decrease the likelihood of rotavirus infections. Rotavirus infections are the leading cause of diarrhea in infants. Also, just like cow's milk baby formula, soy baby formula can be an adequate source of nutrition during baby's first year. This may leave some parents wondering if they should use soy baby formula from the start or make the switch to soy baby formula for their infant's health.

Are Soy Baby Formula Benefits Worth The Risks?

While there are health benefits to soy baby formula, that does not mean it is the correct choice for every infant. Each baby has unique medical and nutritional needs. Therefore, any dietary habits should be discussed with the baby's pediatrician. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), soy-based infant formula should be used only in certain circumstances.

Soy baby formula used to be a common alternative for infants who were lactose intolerant, but that is no longer the case. There now is lactose-free baby formula, as well as hypoallergenic baby formula. Many babies who have an allergic reaction to cow's milk will also have an allergic reaction with soy based formula. In fact, a significant percentage of infants who have severe gastrointestinal problems as a reaction to cow's milk baby formula will likely have similar reactions to soy baby formula.

Which Babies Should Consume Soy Baby Formula?

The benefits of soy baby formula are said to be recommended to infants who have strict vegans as parents. Infants who have true lactose intolerance (not to be confused with a cow's milk allergy) could also benefit from soy baby formula. Although, as mentioned above, there are other options.

Another group of infants that is said to gain health benefits from soy baby formula are those with congenital galactosemia. Babies with this rare condition do not have the enzyme that would turn galactose into glucose. Galactose is found in breast milk, cow's milk, and other dairy products. If too much galactose builds up in the body, it can lead to serious health concerns, including death. Therefore, soy baby formula is recommended for infants who have congenital galactosemia.

Discuss Soy Baby Formula With Your Pediatrician

If you are concerned about your baby’s health or are curious about soy baby formula, ask your pediatrician. The research and information above is not intended as a replacement for discussing a child's health and nutritional needs with a qualified pediatrician. Before starting, switching, or stopping any type of baby formula, the child's pediatrician should always be consulted.

-- Note that the author is not a licensed medical professional. The above is provided for informational purposes. Always consult a licensed medical professional for any advice pertaining to health matters.

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

As a mother to children of various ages and stages, I have studied and dealt with various aspects related to children and sleep. My nannying experience with kids of varied ages also contributed in that regard. So, how much sleep do babies and children need and are your kids getting enough sleep? Read on to find out.

How Much Sleep Do Newborns Need?

A newborn baby may or may not form an exact pattern at the start. It may even out more after a couple weeks. It is true that newborns are likely to spend around 16 - 20 hours of the day sleeping. But, keep in mind that those hours are not always consecutive and shouldn’t last more than 3 hours at a time. Newborn babies need to eat often, at least every 3 hours, sometimes sooner. Do not skip any feeding times.

Sleep Tips and Advice For 3-6 Month Old Babies

From 3 to 6 months, a baby may sleep 5 hours all together during the day and 10 at night. 6-8 of the night-time sleep hours might be consecutive. From 6 - 12 months, a baby should sleep around 3 hours during the day and 11 (in total, not consecutive) at night time.

To encourage good sleeping habits from the beginning, wait just a couple moments after babies (older than 3 months) cry to respond. The reason for this is that the baby may not always need you. The crying may be occurring in the baby's sleep. If after a couple moments the baby is still crying, then check the basic needs, such as diaper changing, feeding, burping, or replacing the pacifier.

Try not to turn on lights or play with babies too much when checking on them at night. Too much stimulation can cause babies to think that bedtime is still playtime. You should instead be teaching the baby that night time is bedtime, so it’s clear that time slot is for sleep. This will help your baby sleep better. If your baby is crying more than a few moments, be sure not to ignore him or her. This is a sign that something is needed.

Sleep And Babies 6 Months and Older

If the baby is over 6 months, there should be no feedings in the middle of night. Simply comfort the baby for a couple minutes at the crib-side so the baby can ease him or herself back to sleep. Comforting might be patting or rubbing the baby's back. Remember not to actually pick the baby up (unless they are in distress) or it could set a pattern of the baby wanting to be held and played with by you every night.

This can be difficult to do, but isn't good for a baby's sleep habits. A baby needs to be able to sleep soundly. Change the diaper or replace the pacifier if necessary. Also, of course, keep an eye on your baby for safety purposes. Never let a baby cry longer than a few moments, as crying is an indication something is wrong, even if you can’t figure it out. Remember that this is a baby’s only way to communicate.

How Much Sleep Do Kids Ages 1 - 5 Need?

By this age, you should have a bedtime routine established for your child, such as taking a bath, brushing teeth, and then reading a story. If the routine, whatever it is, is followed every night, bedtime should run fairly smoothly. The exact routine is not important, as that will vary from family to family and maybe even child to child. What matters is that you have some routine and that it is followed at a certain time each night.

Kids ages 1 - 3 sleep around 10 -14 hours. Some of those hours may be during the day for certain kids, while others may sleep all of them at night and skip a nap. Not all kids need a nap during the day, so if your child does not seem to easily fall into a nap routine, consider taking away nap time altogether and possibly opting for an earlier bedtime. Neither way is the best way for every single kid. All kids are different.

From ages 4 - 5, 10 -12 hours of sleep is average. Like the younger set, what time those hours are received is not as important as the fact they get them. For instance, one of my kids at age 4 would take 3 hour long naps, while another, when 5, didn’t nap at all. Not all kids are the same in this regard.

As long as a routine is established, it matters not whether kids have a daily nap for some of those hours or the hours are all taken at night. As long as kids are getting a normal average of sleep hours, there should be no concern. However, if kids ages 1 - 5 are awaking several times at night, the pediatrician should be consulted.

How Much Sleep Do Kids Ages 6 - 10 Need?

Elementary-aged kids need about 9 to 11 hours of sleep. An exact number of hours can be established by paying attention to your child. Irritability or hyperactive behavior may indicate the need for more sleep. Not enough sleep can actually worsen conditions such as ADD or ADHD. For this age, most of those hours would occur at night.

Don't forget that even kids beyond the toddler stage will need some quality time with parents before bedtime. Even though children can read on their own at this stage, they might still like a bedtime story. Some may prefer to read to you. Others may prefer to play a game of some sort with you before bedtime. All of my children liked to play games before bed at this age, but two always preferred to read to themselves, rather than be read to.

The activity itself matters not as much as the quality time and the routine. It's also a great idea to have little talks with kids before bedtime. This can be a good time for private one-on-one discussions about any worries on the child's mind or just wishes the child has, or anything else he or she wants to say. This can relieve tension, which is a great mood relaxer for bedtime. If your child has problems falling or staying asleep, be sure to contact the pediatrician.

How Much Sleep Do Older Kids or Teens Need?

Most teens need about 8 or 9 hours of sleep. The problem with that is that they may not get it. Some may be up doing homework late at night. Others might be talking on the phone, emailing friends from the computer, or texting friends from their cell phone. Also, during adolescence, the body goes through physical and hormonal changes that may cause lack of sleep. If your teen seems restless or unable to sleep, it is best to see a doctor to determine if there are any sleep issues that can be resolved.

To ensure that they get their sleep, you may have to establish rules about appropriate times for homework, computers, and phones. Sometimes you'll have to do this more than once. Since teens are almost adults, they may feel as though they can do what they want. However, until they are 18, you are still responsible for their well-being. Be sure they get adequate sleep. It is essential to their grades in school, as well as their overall well-being.

Figuring Out Individual Sleep Needs

Each child's sleep requirements will depend on more than one factor. For one thing, not all of them will have exactly the same requirements because each person is different. However, there are ranges or average amounts of time that each child will likely fall between, depending on their age and other variances. Sleep patterns for children should also be discussed with the child's pediatrician. If your child is having trouble sleeping or getting too much sleep, discuss that with the pediatrician as well.

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

Welcoming a new baby can bring out various emotions in the family. Preparing a toddler for a new arrival in the family can be both a wonderful and a stressful time. There are many ways to help your toddler prepare and feel a smooth transition into the idea of having a new baby around the house and many can start during the pregnancy.

Avoid Jealousy

Some toddlers may become jealous of a new baby brother or sister. One way to avoid jealousy is to involve the toddler in shopping for the baby. A toddler can also help to prepare the nursery area. You may choose to let the toddler pick out fabric to prepare the new baby's wrap or nursery bedding. You could also consider allowing the toddler to pick a special stuffed animal or other decorative item to be on display in the baby's room.

Teaching Involvement Through Experience

Another way to prepare and involve a toddler is to teach him or her about babies while the baby is still in the womb. Allowing the toddler to feel the baby move can be helpful in this area as can reading him or her books about babies. Taking the toddler to a daycare, a friend or a relative's house or other location where they can see a baby up close may allow the toddler to prepare for and understand what exactly a baby is. Allowing the child to attend prenatal appointments and see the baby through ultrasound/sonogram as well as hear the heartbeat can also give the toddler a sense of the baby's existence.

Help Ease Resentment

Anger or resentment is another issue toddlers can experience when there is a new baby introduced to the family. One way to help avoid this is to start any changes related to the toddler in regards to the baby before the toddler even knows about the baby coming. For instance, switching the toddler to a bigger bed in order to reserve and prepare the crib for the baby can cause resentment toward the baby in some children. A possible way to avoid this could be to make the new bed transition before making the announcement of the baby and making the bed transition more of an accomplishment of the toddler rather than an adjustment made to prepare for the new baby.

Another situation that could cause resentment is the fact that some toddlers may think the new baby will take all of the attention and love from the parents. If a toddler is used to being the center of attention, the announcement of a new baby may worry him or her and cause thoughts that he or she will be pushed aside to make room for the new baby. Explaining that families have enough love for everyone may help ease the child's mind in this situation.

There are various ways to help a toddler prepare and get used to the idea of having a new baby brother or sister in the house. Each family and situation will be unique. Therefore, catering your welcoming methods to your toddler's individual needs may be the best way of all to prepare him or her for the changes that lie ahead.

*I originally published a version of this via Yahoo Contributor Network

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

As a seasoned parent, I have tried my fair share of chore charts, rewards, and punishments when it comes to chores. Some worked for a short period of time and some were a failure from the start. Only one has stood the test of time with both young kids and even tweens. This is when we use a chore tracking system that includes rewards of both money and computer time. It requires a list of chores and a tracking chart.  With this method, it’s been possible to get tweens to do chores using allowance and computer time. The tweens are open to this, as are the younger kids. Here’s how it’s done.

Step 1: Create a chore list. This can be on a small sheet of paper that will be tacked to the refrigerator or another common area. List all chores throughout the entire house, big or small. I find it easy to sort the chores by rooms. This helps the kids find them and it also separates simple and hard tasks. For instance, taking out office trash may be simpler than taking out kitchen trash.

Step 2: Assign points to each chore. In our house, each point is equal to either a penny or 30 seconds of computer time. Determine how many points should be awarded for each chore, based on its difficulty. For instance, doing the dishes might be worth 50 points (variable). That would be 25 minutes of computer time or 50 cents. But a more simple chore, like washing the counters, might only be worth 15-20 points, depending on how dirty the counters may be.

Step 3: Determine when the reward will occur. We allow the computer time to be redeemed any time there is no schoolwork or housework that needs doing. But if the tweens choose money, they can redeem their points for money once per week. This teaches the value of saving because they have to wait and there is only so much computer time one could want. We also limit computer time to a certain number of minutes per day per kid.

Step 4: Create a tracking chart. This is separate from the chore list. The tracking sheet will be easiest to use if it can be erased and reused each week. We like to use a dry erase board and markers. We write in each child's name and when they do each chore, the points are placed with their name. The kids are allowed to choose any chores they please. You may decide to do this differently. If any points are rewarded before the end of the week (computer points), those are eased. This way, at the end of the week, the tweens are not confused as to how many points they should have.  

Step 5: Discuss the chart with your tweens. Let them know the basic rules, as well as how many chores (if any) are expected each day. We are more free with this and I think that opens them up to offer more than they might normally do if forced. Because they have an incentive, it's usually not necessary to ask them to do certain things. They already know that if they don't do any chores, they don't get any allowance or computer time because there won't be any points.

Each parent who uses this method may choose to add their own rules or modify the system to fit their family. It is not important to stick to my exact method because each child is different. Consistency is the most important factor of this chore rewards system, as with any other. No matter the method you choose to use with your tweens, be sure it is the right fit in your family and one you can follow through with. Consistency and follow-through are the secrets to success in anything.

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

normally fills the mop bucket, have him mop the floors as well. The goal is to expand on current tasks and add on new ones as needed. This helps encourage independence at a pace your child can handle.

Give tweens full responsibility for any pets they have. Your tween may already have small pet-related tasks, such as feeding them, cleaning food dishes, playing with them, etc. But try slowly adding on more tasks as can be handled until the pet's full responsibility is up to your tween child. For instance, a 7-year-old may play with her hamster, feed her, and give her small treats as necessary. As she can handle it throughout the months and years, cage changing and cleaning and other tasks can be added.

Start teaching tweens to babysit with 'mommy's helper' tasks. Depending on your tween's age and maturity, being what's called a mommy's helper can aid in teaching independence. A mommy's helper is a babysitter or nanny that tends to the younger kids while the responsible adult is still present. Basically, this tween will be responsible for entertaining siblings and preparing simple snacks and meals. It's similar to babysitting, except that there is a responsible adult around to handle the more serious tasks. A mommy's helper usually busies the younger kids while mom works, cleans, or handles other household duties.

Enroll your tween in a sport or extracurricular activity. It's true that being involved in sports and activities teaches kids teamwork. But it also teaches independence. They have to learn to do things without you there to help. While you may be sitting on the sidelines at a game, it is up your tween to take action. It's especially helpful if your tween becomes team captain or gets to lead one or more classes with activity instruction.

Be independent yourself. If your tween sees you depending on others to get things done, that's the example that will be followed. But if you show that you can do things with or without the assistance of others, that can go a very long way. Because I work from home without a boss, my kids have seen me be very independent from the start. Even when I held more traditional jobs, I've always been a do-it-yourselfer. Whether you think so or not, the things you say and do are going to rub off on your kids.

Don't be afraid to let go. Some of the resistance to independence tweens can feel may be due in part to your own resistance. If you can't let go of the security blanket, then neither will your tween. Being free to do things and make decisions on their own prepares tweens for life. While you can't completely let go at this stage, it's important to ease up on controlling the things they can handle on their own.

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

new ball game full of new discoveries, milestones, and successes and failures. If you pay attention to your tween, you'll be prepared to beat that teen attitude with a smile. Believe me, your effort will be much appreciated.

Letting go is hard, but necessary. Teens need much more space than younger kids. Not only are they likely going through an emotional roller coaster. But being independent is a big part of growing into the adult stage. When your tween starts to become a teen, it's the perfect time to prepare yourself by letting go of certain things. Let your tween make certain choices in preparation for becoming a teen. You can't (and shouldn't) control everything.

You're still in charge, but in a different way. Now, just because you will let go of some things when your tween becomes a teen, it doesn't necessarily mean you aren't the boss. You still have the final word and your tween should know this. However, your tween needs to also feel secure in making some decisions without your help. This will become even more necessary once your tween matures into the teenage years. Just choose your time together wisely and pick your battles.

Take it one step at a time. It's not going to be easy letting go of your baby or realizing that baby is getting closer to becoming an adult. Just relax and take things as they come. Ease yourself into the process by slowly giving up things within reason. Talk to parents who have been down that road before. Your tween is likely going to be acting differently than a few years ago. There will be new interests, new friends, more mature looks, and possibly a new attitude. It's all a natural part of life, as hard as it may be to watch unfold. For every difficult moment, there will be many happy ones. Always remember that.

Find different activities to share. Just because your tween is turning into a teenager, it doesn't mean you can't still have fun together. But your tween's idea of fun may be entirely different than before. Listen your growing child's opinions and choices and let them be heard. Savor the memories from your prior family destinations and activities. Then, make new ones to treasure that go along with your growing teen's needs. Trips to the mall may start to involve movie play dates and makeovers instead of the kiddie play area and ice cream cones. Find out those new things your tween is into and learn how to make them work for you both. Who cares if you don't like the latest band? Take your tween to that concert or buy the music anyway.

by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

"Mommy, Mommy! My arms are itchy!" Your toddler is standing below you tugging at your pant leg with persistence. You look at her arms and discover she has some sort of rash. To avoid risky scenarios as much as possible, parents can learn more about common houseplants that are poisonous. Here are some of the most common poisonous houseplants to keep away from kids.

Amaryllis

An amaryllis is a bulbous herbal houseplant. The flowers are funnel-shaped and vary in color. The poisonous part of the amaryllis is the bulb. If ingested, it can cause nausea, vomiting, diarrhea and salivation. Children may be attracted to the amaryllis for its stunning color and shape.

Azalea

The azalea is a flowering shrub with round clumps of blooms. They can be white, pink or yellow in color. They bear two types of leaves. All parts of the azalea are poisonous. When ingested, these houseplants can cause salivation, loss of energy, depression, nausea, paralysis in the arms and legs, coma, breathing difficulties, weakness and more. These flowers are bright in color and have a unique shape.

Caladium

The caladium has heart-shaped leaves and can be green, red, orange or white, depending on the species. Some other names for caladium houseplants include mother-in-law plant, heart-of-Jesus, caladio, cananga and angel wings. All parts of the caladium are poisonous when ingested. The caladium causes major irritation to the lips, mouth and throat.

Calla Lily

The calla lily is a houseplant with long stems or stalks and leaves shaped like arrows. They bloom in white or green. The leaves are the poisonous portion of calla lily houseplants. Irritations to the skin can occur on contact. Ingestion causes an extreme burning feeling to the lips and mouth. While toxic, the calla lily is often considered a very beautiful flowering houseplant. Thus, children may naturally be attracted to its beauty.

Cyclamen

The cyclamen can be both rounded and heart shaped. This houseplant has flowers which come in red, pink or white. The roots are the poisonous area of cyclamen houseplants. Ingestion can cause nausea, diarrhea, vomiting, paralysis and convulsions. Skin irritation from contact may also occur. Children may be attracted to the delicate size, vibrant colors or unique shape.

Dumb Cane

Also commonly called dieffenbachia, the dumb cane is a tall leafy plant. The leaves are large and can have ivory colored patches. The poisonous part of the dumb cane is the leaf. If chewed on, the leaf will cause intense pain and cause the mouth to swell. Children may be drawn to this poisonous houseplant because of the design on the leaves or the fact that the leaves are big and easy to grab.

Eucalyptus

Eucalyptus plants belong to the evergreen family. The leaves are rounded and can be a dark green or red tone. The leaves and bark of the eucalyptus tree are poisonous. Contact skin irritation can occur. Also, ingestion can cause nausea, vomiting, diarrhea and coma. The oil from a eucalyptus tree is toxic.

Jerusalem Cherry

The Jerusalem cherry or coral can be in the form of shrubs or herbs. These houseplants are often spiny or hairy. Black, orange or red berries grow from this plant. The entire plant is poisonous if ingested. However, the berries are the most potent. When ingested, the Jerusalem cherry causes throat irritation, fever, diarrhea and gastric irritation. Children may be attracted to this poisonous houseplant because of its colorful berries. To children, they may resemble edible berries.

Philodendron

This is generally a climbing vine. Most have large heart-shaped leaves. Contact with the philodendron can cause skin irritation. Ingestion of philodendron plants can cause burning to the lips, mouth and throat. Some children may be attracted to the clutching or climbing aspect of vine houseplants, such as the philodendron.

Rosary Pea

Also known as rosary pearls, these are tropical houseplants bearing red berries. Ingestion of broken seeds causes a delayed reaction of vomiting, nausea, diarrhea, major abdominal pain, burning in the throat and lesions in the mouth and esophagus. The rosary pea can cause death. Because the peas look edible and are bright red, resembling cranberries, they may attract children.

Being sure that the plants in your house are not poisonous to children can save you stress later and even avoid tragedy. Read up on educational materials and consult with poison control centers to better understand which houseplants are safe to have around children and which are not.

Sources:
California Poison Control System
Poisonous Plant Resource Sheet For Childcare Providers (State of NC)

by Alicia Bodine, Contributing Writer

1. Insurance/Price: Does the physician take your insurance? If not, what are his or her rates? Are the rates high or low compared to other doctors in the area? If they are too high, that might be an indication that the doctor cares more about money than he does about his patients. You really want to find someone who charges the going rate or less. You will also want to ask how much the doctor charges for certain tests and extras. It is better to be prepared than to sign on with a doctor (having no insurance that is) and then find yourself in a big debt.

​2. Hours of operation: What are the doctor's office hours? Will there be someone to take your calls if the doctor is not available on weekends? Does the doctor have hours for patients in his care who are in the hospital? This is important because if you end up needing to stay at the hospital you will get whatever doctor is on call.

3. Years of Experience: How long has the doctor been in practice? Where did he attend college? Where did he complete his apprenticeship? If your doctor is brand new, just out of college he hasn't had much life experience yet. I would not advise taking this kind of physician on. You should wait until a physician has had a decent amount of years working under or with a veteran doctor.

4. Referrals: Do you know anyone in town who goes to this Doctor? What is their recommendation? Make sure you talk to at least 10 individuals to get an overall feel. Also find out how long the individual has been a patient so you can gauge whether they have had a chance to get to know the doctor or not.

5. The Doctors Demeanor: Does the doctor explain things in a way you can understand? Does the doctor talk down to you or like you are equals? Does the doctor seem happy to see you or are you just another number? Think about what kind of person you enjoy interacting with. Does this doctor have those qualities?

​Making the decision to choose a primary care physician should not be taken likely. In an ideal situation you want to have a good relationship with your doctor. If something were to go wrong you want to know ahead of time that this doctor will be able to handle it, make the proper diagnosis, refer you to the right specialists, and do it in a kind manner. Use the above questions to guide yourself in choosing the right doctor for you.

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by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

Some mistakenly think that healthy skin comes naturally for a baby. In a sense, it does. But, to keep infant skin healthy, proper skin care techniques should be applied. I am a mother experienced in infant skin care for several children, as well as keeping my own skin healthy. I feel my experience could be useful to many parents interested in baby skin care. Over the years, I have gained knowledge through trial and error, the advice of doctors, and also through research.

Getting Started With Healthy Infant Skin Care

Before starting to care for your baby’s skin, do a product inventory. Read labels of cleansing products, lotions and moisturizers, and laundering products. Check for unnecessary chemicals and fragrance. Products that promote healthy infant skin should include mainly water, moisturizers, disinfectants (for cleansing products), and vitamins and minerals. Beyond that, there shouldn't be many other ingredients. While fragrance is included in many baby care products, it often is not good for promoting healthy skin care. Some babies are sensitive to fragrances, dyes, and other chemicals. Even those who are not should be limited to their exposure. I personally do not use any commercial baby products and opt for making my own, due to difficulty finding any that do not contain harmful chemicals.

Cleansing Your Baby’s Skin For Optimal Health

The first step to maintaining healthy skin for an infant is properly cleansing the skin. A baby should not necessarily be using the same cleansers as an adult. Some of those can be harsh on a baby's skin, causing it to dry out or get irritated. Dry or irritated skin is not healthy skin. A good baby cleansing product should contain a cleanser or disinfectant, possibly a moisturizer, water, and vitamins or minerals. Other ingredients should be minimal or non-existent. Soft cloths made of 100% cotton are best for applying cleansers to infant skin. Plain, fragrance free glycerin soap with only oatmeal and almond oil (not to be confused with almond extract or scented essential oils) is a good choice. It’s actually quite easy to make your own.

Moisturizers For Infant Skin Health

Moisturizing is another important step to healthy skin care in infants. Many babies naturally have soft skin, but to maintain that soft, healthy skin, frequent moisturizing is necessary. Using just any moisturizer is not necessarily better than none. The harsh ingredients in some of them can be detrimental to healthy skin care for a baby and can actually deplete moisture. If you can’t make your own products, check labels to be sure the ingredients consist of a proper moisturizer, preferably some vitamins and minerals, as well as purified water. I personally recommend simple coconut or almond oil infused with pure (unfragranced) vitamin E oil.

Bedding and Clothing Play an Important Role in Infant Skin Care

Often overlooked are the garments babies wear, as well as their bedding. Anything that comes in contact with a baby's skin should be considered in maintaining healthy skin care habits. Be cautious of the fabrics used to make the bedding and clothing. Also, pay attention to the laundering products used. Avoid products that contain chemicals, fragrances, and dyes. Natural laundry detergent is best for maintaining healthy skin care in an infant.

To avoid wrinkling in the clothing, try hanging the clothing neatly on the clothesline in the sun. The sunshine method also can help to freshen the clothing, taking away the need for a fabric refresher. Another freshening method is to add a small amount of baking soda (maybe a teaspoon) to the washer with a cup of vinegar. This can serve as a cleanser, disinfectant, de-wrinkler, and fabric softener all at once.  
                           
Things to Remember:                                                           

• Check infant skin care products for chemicals, dyes, and fragrance.
• Anything that touches a baby's skin should be considered in maintaining healthy skin care habits.
• To maintain that soft, healthy skin babies can have, frequent moisturizing is necessary.
  

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by Lyn Lomasi, Write W.A.V.E. Media Staff

If you are breastfeeding, you'll want to know when to begin weaning your baby from breastmilk. There is no generalized answer to that question. However, the following information may be helpful in determining an answer. Some may be weaning in order to go back to work while others may be weaning for other reasons, such as the transition into solid foods.

When Should I Start Weaning My Baby?

According to KidsHealth.org, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that babies are breastfed until at least 6 months of age. At that point, it is recommended that a combination of breastmilk and solid foods be given until the baby is at least 1 year old.

Experts will vary on the exact time when moms can begin weaning their baby. Consulting with your child's pediatrician is a great way to be sure that the choice you make is catered to your baby's individual needs. Beyond that, watch for cues from your baby's actions, combining that with the doctor's advice. I always found that combining the doctor's advice with baby's cues led to a successful weaning process.

Transitioning to Solids

Some babies will wean on their own naturally during the transition to solid foods. Others may need their mother to take a leadership role when it comes to weaning. Some are not as willing to wean as others. It may be the easiest to begin weaning your baby when solid foods are a particular interest or distraction. The excitement of new foods may distract the baby's attention from breastfeeding.

When a baby is showing more interest in transitioning to drinking liquids in a cup and eating more solid foods, this is a good indication of when to begin weaning. Baby food and liquid amounts should be discussed with the pediatrician to be sure that baby is eating the correct amount.

Reducing & Eliminating Nightly Feedings

The nightly feedings seem to be the hardest to shy the baby away from. Therefore some mothers opt to use transitioning to solid foods as a perfect opportunity to eliminate nightly feedings. Some mothers may still choose to offer a nightly feeding while transitioning the baby to solids.

Importance of Gradual Weaning

During the process of weaning, you don't want to just stop breastfeeding all of a sudden. Weaning a baby should involve gradually decreasing the amount of breastmilk given, while gradually increasing other forms of nourishment. This helps to ensure that the baby is getting the proper nourishment needed to thrive. If you are at all unsure of what to do during the process, don't hesitate to talk to your child's pediatrician to accurately assess what is healthy for your baby.

-- Note that the author is not a licensed medical professional. The above is provided for informational purposes. Always consult a licensed medical professional for any advice pertaining to health matters.

by Alicia Bodine, Contributing Writer

Once the milk is pumped, it will need to be stored. Here are 8 easy breast milk storage methods that you can use:

1. Place the milk directly in to the bottle at set it out on the kitchen counter. This is perfectly acceptable if you plan on feeding the baby within the next 4 hours.

2. Place the milk directly in to the bottle and set it in your refrigerator. You can do this for all of the bottles you think you will use over the next 3-4 days. The milk will still be fresh, you will just need to heat it up before serving it to the baby.

3. Pour your pumped milk in to some baby food jars and place them in the freezer. Breast milk will stay good for up to 4 months. Just take it out and place it in the refrigerator a few hours before you want to use it so that it thaws out naturally.

4. Purchase some nursing bags and pour your breast milk in them. These bags can be kept in a refrigerator or a freezer. These bags are sterilized and made specifically for storing your breast.​

5. Use store bought freezer bags to store your breast milk. You will need to purchase smaller ones because you won't want to store large amounts in one bag. You would end up wasting some after you thawed it out.

6. Pour the breast milk in to a plastic soda bottle. Make sure that you sterilize the plastic soda bottle first. You can then leave it on the counter,place it in the freezer, or place it in the refrigerator.

7. Use small Tupperware containers. Tupperware comes with a lifetime guarantee because it is so durable. You an then store the milk on the counter, in the fridge, or in the freezer.

8. Clean out your left over pickle jars and use them to store your breast milk. These containers have lids that screw on tight so they are perfect for storing milk. You can also place these in a refrigerator or freezer or just leave them out on the counter.

Tips:
Always write the date on the storage container or bag so that you know how long you have been storing it.

Warning:
Always use thawed out breast milk within one day and never place it back in the freezer.

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by Alicia Bodine, Contributing Writer

1. Don't argue with Mother Nature. In other words, when the weatherman says it is going to be hot AND humid you need to stay in doors. Make sure you have an adequate fan or air conditioner available. If you absolutely have to travel make sure you car has air conditioning as well as the destination. I highly recommend you avoid outdoor activities on these days.

2. Use wet wash cloths. I loved using wet wash cloth's in the summer. The trick is placing them around the back of your neck. It tends to cool off the whole body just from that one spot. I am not a scientist, I am just commenting on my own experiences. Some folk suggest you use a water bottle and spray yourself through out the day. Whatever you prefer, it helps you use cold water on and off during those hot days.
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3. Plan to run your errands either early or late. The hottest hours of the day are reportedly between the hours of 10am and 2pm. Get your shopping, banking, etc done early if you are a morning person or after dinner if you are a night owl. I personally liked getting up early and not having to go anywhere the rest of the day. Either way, avoid the sun in the afternoon.

4. Drink plenty of water. I think this has to be one of the most important things on the survival list. Water will keep your body hydrated. I personally can't quench my thirst with anything else. I recommend always having a nice cold glass of ice water handy wherever you go. If you have to be out and about, pack a little cooler that holds at least 3 drinks. Then you will be sure not to run out.

5. Don't be shy. Ask for help with daily activities if you need it. Over exerting yourself during those summer months can result in exhaustion, burn out, or worse. And if you are outdoors you increase your chances for suffering from heat stroke. The important thing is keeping you and your unborn baby as safe, healthy, and comfortable as possible.

6. Get plenty of rest. Let's face it, you won't have time for rest when the baby is born so you mine as well get it while you can. You also have to remember you are carrying around a lot of extra weight making it more strenuous and tiresome to keep up with your normal daily activities. Taking some naps and getting plenty of rest at night will help keep you at your best.
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7. Always wear sunscreen. I remember getting several lectures from my nurses when I showed up for a check up with a tan. According to them I should have been wearing sun block with a SPF of 100. Seriously though, it is recommended that you wear at least a sun block with a SPF of 15 every time you venture outdoors.

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by Alicia Bodine, Contributing Writer

2. My family takes great joy in using our Christmas cards for decorations. We place each one along the tops of the doorways on the inside of our home. It is fun to watch each entryway fill with Christmas cards. We just tape them up, but you can just as easily put a hole through each card with your hole puncher, slide a string through the hole, and hang them up anywhere in your house.

​3. After we finish using our Christmas cards as decorations, we take them down and place them in a basket. The basket is then set in the middle of the dining room table. Each night at dinner we take a card out of the basket and pray for the family that sent us the card. Every family needs prayer, and what better way to thank your family for thinking of you at Christmas time than to pray for them. We get over 80 cards per year, and by using one card per night we can keep the cards around until March.

4. Finally, we use our Christmas cards in our scrapbooks. Christmas cards have creative greetings and warm wishes that you can cut out and paste with your pictures. You can also clip out the awesome Christmas scenes or Christmas characters to use with the Christmas pages of your scrapbook. One year I did a scrap booking Bible Study. The page of Thankfulness I did entirely with my Christmas cards. I was thankful for my family and friends who had taken the time to think of us that year.

There is no end to what you can do with your Christmas cards if you put some thought into it. Go ahead and be creative. You may be surprised to see where it leads you.

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by Alicia Bodine, Contributing Writer

Mayim Bialik

As one of the stars of the popular series The Big Bang Theory, Mayim Bialik is quite busy. As the mother of two boys, Miles and Frederick, relies on her ex-husband Michael Stone to care for the boys while she is working.

Matthew McConaughey

Matthew McConaughey and his wife Camila Alves have a total of three children, Levi, Vida, and Livingston, raising all of them without the help of a nanny. Just like Jennifer Lopez, the couple had Camila's mother move into their home to help care for the children when they are working. Matthew continues to work as a busy actor, while Camila continues to work as a model.

Kimberly Williams-Paisley
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Many will remember Kimberly Williams (now Paisley) as Steve Martin's daughter in Father of the Bride. These days Kimberly is married to country music star Brad Paisley and the pair have two children, Huck and Jasper. The couple follows the "It takes a village to raise a child" motto by recruiting help from both of their moms, as well as several family friends.

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