What is my secret? How did I attract a beautiful partner? What is it about me that makes it so I just sit there and I'm somehow desirable? Why didn't I realize before what I needed out of a relationship? Where can we end up going together? When will I stop asking so many questions?

You know, it's fine to ask questions. Some may seem too personal to ask on a first date. Hey, I never really tried dating. Actually, I've never dated at all, not in the traditional sense. I've hung out with some persons of interest before. These encounters were interesting. Hardly any of them went anywhere soon afterwards.

You can get a sense fairly quickly if there's no future in a relationship. At least, that's what I've come to believe. In my teenage years, though, I was pretty delusional. Weren't most of us? Very few of us knew what we wanted in a partner. Our teenage years mostly teach us what we don't want. That's actually probably more important at that point.

Hormones do some funny things. This isn't to say those I found attractive in my younger years really weren't. They were, at least physically. Just not in the way that matters. The only thing that matters is personality. And yet somewhere along the line you end up convinced that you have a type. Let me tell you: there isn't really a type. You just happen to meet someone and it works. No matter your differences, you just make it work.

The secret? Just do your thing. Get that picture of the perfect soul mate out of your head. But don't settle. It's OK to be shy. The right one will be interested. Just don't miss your chance. I followed this line of thinking. It worked for me.

by Vivienne Diane Neal, OneWorld SinglesBlog.net

Yet, many will continue to ignore the ‘in your face’ warnings. Eventually, a spouse will have to face reality and ask, “Is there infidelity going on in our marriage?” Although unfaithfulness occurs on both sides, we are focusing mainly on cheating husbands who have used some of the most dumbfounded excuses to mask their betrayal:

• “Honey, I am going fishing with my buddies this weekend.” Ordinarily that might not be a problem, but why would he choose to go fishing on the day of your birthday or worse on your wedding anniversary. Some individuals might say, “Give the guy a break; most men have a temporary lapse of memory when it comes to important dates.” However, if a woman never forgets, why would a man fail to remember such an important day?

• You find condoms in the glove compartment of your husband’s car. You and your mate never use condoms. His explanation is that the condoms belong to his male friend, and he is just holding them as a favor. The question to ask, “Would a woman carry her friend’s diaphragm or cervical cap as an act of kindness.”

• You find a pair of panties in the back seat of your husband’s car; he tells you they are your gift for Valentine’s Day. The problem is, the panties are a size 5, but you wear a size 16. In addition, nowhere on the label does it indicate that ‘one size five fits all.’

• Your husband is served with child support papers and you never knew he had an offspring. His response is, “We were separated during that period, but you and he were still legally married.

• You find a shoebox hidden in the basement. In that box are risqué photos of him posing nude with another woman. You confront him, and his response is, “That is not me baby.” You say, “It is you.” He says, “Who are you going to believe, me or your lying eyes?” When he makes that remark, he has a great big grin on his face.

• It is late at night, and you wake up to noises coming from the living room. You go down stairs to check and catch your husband doing a horizontal dance with a strange woman. He looks up and says, “Honey, it is just a dream. Go back to sleep.”

Have you heard of an unbelievable explanation given by a cheating spouse, when caught in a compromising position? If so, we would like to hear from you. Your name or email will never be published. Only your initials, city or country where you reside will be posted. Send details to info@oneworldsinglesblog.net - Sometime in the in the near future, we will post the results. All information submitted will become the exclusive property of HMCS and may be published in any media without any compensation to the person sharing the details.

Born in 1946, Vivienne Diane Neal is a writer, blogger, and an author. She is a storyteller with a wicked sense of humor, has been writing articles for over thirty years and started penning fictional short stories in 2007. Vivienne gets her story and article ideas from observing people, places, and things and watching true TV court cases and talk shows.

Vivienne has been featured on SingleEdition, Black Love is Beautiful, A Book Inside, Susan Whitfield’s Blog, Cluculzwriter, Have Stress Relief Now, 1st Author Interviews, IMRR Bookclub Newsletter Fall 2011, Writers Get Together, Mary M. Forbes Blog, Romance Review Ramble, AuthorMePro, The Writer’s Voice, Polygirl Publishing, Singles Warehouse, and Writers Get Together and was a contributing writer to NINA Magazine and Honey Magazine.

Now, semi-retired, she continues to write articles on love, romance, relationships, and other topics of interest on her Blog at http://www.oneworldsinglesblog.net

by Janet Walker, Contributing Writer

People all over the world have sexual fetishes and you may be a little surprised at just how many of them there are. Sexual fetishism is the phrase used to describe a body part, specific object or even a particular situation that causes a person to be sexual aroused that wouldn’t normally be considered sexual. For example, some people have a used panty fetish.

To some people, this may seem very odd but it’s a real sexual fetish just like any other. You don’t hear a lot about it because people are embarrassed to talk about it in fear of being criticize or worse.

What is a Used Panty Fetish? You may be asking yourself, what is a used panty fetish? It’s exactly what it sounds like. A person with this type of fetish becomes sexual excited when they see, handle or smell panties that someone else has worn previously. While this is not something that most people would talk about openly, it’s not considered a paraphilia desire. In other words, it’s not dangerous or a serious abnormal sexual desire.

In fact, it’s perfectly normal as long as it does not cause the person with the fetish or anyone else any type of distress or other problems. For example, stalking or forcing someone to participate in this type of fetish would be abnormal behavior but considering how popular this fetish really is, this kind of behavior is not necessary.

It’s More Popular than You Might Think If you think it would be difficult for someone to indulge in this type of fetish, you might be surprised to learn that there is actually an industry that caters to this particular fetish. It started in Japan where burusera shops were established. A burusera shop is a store created to sell school uniforms and gym suits from young girls, along with other items that include socks, swimsuits and undergarments.

The girls sold these items as a way to make money and when it first started, it was perfectly legal to sell them openly. However, in 2004, a law was passed that banned selling underwear belonging to girls under the age of 18, so these shops had to stop selling the undergarments and other personal items that belong to young girls.

However, that was not the end of the industry by any means. Thanks to the Internet, people can buy used panties online and have them shipped right to their doorstep. Many women willingly sell their used panties online because it is a thriving industry in which you can make good money. Since buying online is fast, easy and discreet, business is booming. If you’re interested in checking it out for yourself, click here to view and/or purchase used panties.

We live in a society that tends to frown upon anything that seems out of the ordinary and there are a lot of people that will make those with this type of sexual fetish feel ashamed of their desires, so they keep it a secret. People are different in every way including what they like and dislike sexual so fetishes are perfectly normal. However, being able to purchase these items discreetly has made it easier for people all over the world to indulge privately.